Saturday, February 20, 2010


There is no doubt that parents have a duty to see that the children come up with moral values, that they don’t resort to drugs, they are competent. This does not mean that the duty should result in the parents becoming sovereigns.
The way to deal with children is different depending upon the age of the children. Children between 1 to 6 years come under one class, 6 to 13 would come under another class, while 13 to 20 would come under a different class. Absolute care should be taken while dealing with children between 1 to 6 years because that is the time when children can be moulded for all times in future. Greatest care is to be taken in imbibing high moral values to children between the age of 1 to 6 years. The value so imbibed in that age shall remain with them for all times. If proper values are given at that time, they would not behave very erratic even between the ages of 13 to 20.
The major problem while we deal with children between 13 to 20 is want of communication. If there is communication, it is very unlikely that things would go very bad. Hence from the age of 1 appropriate communication features should be developed between the parents and the child. To facilitate this as far as possible it should be a way of life to sit together and have lunch, dinner speaking to each other. From inception almost from the child’s age of 4 years, the child should be encouraged to express its views, it should be encouraged to canvass and assert that its views are correct, importance of agreeing to disagree should be informed. The child should be made to know that two persons can have disagreement but still love, like and respect each other. If this quality is imbibed in the child when it is between 4 to 6 years and if the normal way of life is to dine together speaking to each other, there will not be communication gap which is the major reason for bitterness both to children and parents. 

Friday, February 19, 2010


Leo buscaglia wrote as follows:
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smallest act of caring all of which have the potential to turn a life around”.
An honest realization of the above would help you to be Daddy Cool.
One of the most important ingredients for being cool is accepting the reality.
Every person including a child wants to have freedom. The parents behave as sovereigns. There is an urge in the child to exercise its independence. At that young age it does not know any way of expressing independence other than saying No. No for anything parents say. Daddy does not like it. Daddy does not want to face the reality that every child wants freedom and its inherent nature is to say No.
Not realizing the above, the parents feel let down and unhappy on the protests and non-co-operation of children. For you to be Daddy Cool, you must first accept the basic reality that it is the inherent nature and it is basic right of the child to say No to what you say.
Wisdom is learning what to overlook. Wisdom is also learning when to overlook. Parents get perturbed and unhappy for every No of the child. Such parents can never be calm and can never be cool.
Daddy in particular should have the wisdom to overlook activities of the child which are not to the taste of Daddy as long as it does not hurt the child. Even if such act hurts the parents, that is no ground not to overlook. Only when the child gets very seriously affected, there can be interference. What type of interference I shall state later.

Thursday, February 18, 2010


I am 62 years. Naturally my friends are around 60 years old and they are all Indians.

In India most people who are around 60 years do not have e-mail account and they are not normally used to work on computer.

As a consequence I rely upon for my communication to younger generation consisting of friends of my son. Thanks to one and all of them for not having rejected me as an old hag.

The friends of my son always called me ‘Daddy Cool’. They were surprised at my ability to t

tolerate the whimsical behavior of my son. O God! I hope my son will not shout that I write all these. However it is not a problem because although he troubled me like nobody’s business between his age of 14 to 21, now I do not think anyone can have a better son than what I have.

My son has a non-attached love to me. Although he will not get me a Dosa by going to the hotel, because he thinks that I am capable of having it by myself, he would take me to good films. He knows I don’t have company of youngsters, he encourages me to meet his friends and he has made my life interesting. Thanks to him.

Now my son is 26 years old. He has a son. His friends (of course my friends too) are all either married or about to get married. I think it is proper for them to be ‘DADDY COOLS’.

U will have my views as to how to be DADDY COOL from tomorrow.