Closely associated with my previous Blog “What am I for?” the present Blog comes.
In life man wants to be loved for himself for nothing else. A man wants to be loved as he is and for his being. Except parents no one else can give such love. In this regard Ayn Rand has written as follows which I had quoted in my earlier Blog ‘Subject: To quote Ayn Rand’.
“I am neither foe nor friend to my brothers, but such as each of them shall deserve of me. And to earn my love, my brothers must do more than to have been born. I do not grant my love without reason, nor to any chance passer-by who may wish to claim it. I honor men with my love. But honor is a thing to be earned.”
It is only the parents who can make an exception to the above rule and love their children for the sake of love. But it does not happen.
Every parent is trying to force children into some utility. Every parent want their children to prove. Their egos are worried because they are planning fulfillment of their unfulfilled egos through their children. That is what the present age children will do to their children as and when they become old and get children.
By the hope of the parents they destroy their children.
Just as a child comes out of womb of the mother, it has to come out of the expectation of the parents. Then only he becomes free and he would stand on his legs.
The love to the children should be absolute, unconditional, accepting them as they are without expecting them to fulfill any demand. A child brought up under this condition will live for delight. He will be an end by himself. Otherwise he will be a means to an end.
If your hope is going to convert your child’s life into a means rather than end, such hope is poisonous.
Children are a delight to every parent. What ever they do is taken in a rightful and a good attitude. There is no parent who does not want their children to be successful in their endeavors and their future in general. They also watch closely with care, concern and love to guide them in every aspect and also enjoy every bit of their success. If a parent does not have expectations for their children and donot guide them thinking that they are forcing them to a different direction, this attitude could be venomous. A child amongst any body else look forward to be guided by their parents and the parents will always watch and find out the aptitudes of a kid to guide them apart from thier love for the kids. If a proper guidance is not there, then it could be poisonous.
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